This is something what can say a lot of mothers. Especially
mother, whose child has some kind of syndrome. For example, Down' syndrome.
Children are extra – special „thing“ . Simple, „thing“,
which is depend on us, adults. And they change in accordance to us. Their direction
is directed by us. By our acts. No matter, what kind of act it is.
It is valid for every child. Health, not health, or child,
which has some special Gift from God. Gift which can complicate a life of
parents, a little bit, or more, but at the same time it can enrich their
life. Like another one , extra chromosome, or some special way of realizing the
love for parents. I refer to two types of children. Those with Down's
syndrome and those with Autism.
Both of these types of children are special. It can be hard
to create some relationship with them, it can be more complicated, but it is not
beyond possibility. It is sad, that if children are in one of these „groups“, they
are automatic labeled. Yet they are personalities.
It is said , that children with Down's syndrome are full of
love, which they share with everyone around them. That is true. Their creation
and expression of emotions is boundless and positive in the most of cases, what
is amazing. I understand it can be harder to communicate with them, live
with them. Because we need a lot of patience and boundless love within us.
Few years ago, I had a chance to meet boy with
this syndrome in the church. When we all began to shake our hands (offering the
sign of peace), he did not shake hand of girl next to him, he embraced her. This
girl was amazed, but after first moment she put big smile on her face and I smiled
too. It was breathtaking how someone can express simple love so intensive. But
not everyone was so understanding. Some people just stared, some people had
denouncing look at their faces...He just did not deserve it.
On the other side, children with autism are absolutely contrary.
They can hardly create some emotions and their parents suffers because of it.
They love their children as much as every other parent but these children don't sense
it. Or more precisely, they don't know how to receive these emotions, these
feeling, they are not able to feel something like that. But if parents remain
in their effort, there is possibility to create permanent feelings and this is
big success and this love is the most powerful!
I am sorry, that these children are labeled by society
and they are not always granted to be accepted. We are all different. Even when
they are a little bit different, I think they should not be considered
as outsiders. We have no right to decide, if they have right to be born because
of their diagnose. They are not submen.
Every child needs protection, love and patience. They needs
to feel they are loved and accepted. No matter, if these children are able to
create feelings simple, or not. Maybe just this one difference is something,
what makes them special. It can be always something, what we can not see in
ourselves. What about start to discover this „something“ in us with them and
instead of refusing them, let's help them to integrate and show them, they are useful
for us all, for our society?
Their love is in the end one of the strongest love ever.
Do not forget, at the end of the day, they can teach you
more than you can teach them, after all.
