My child is different

This is something what can say a lot of mothers. Especially mother, whose child has some kind of syndrome. For example, Down' syndrome.

Children are extra – special „thing“ . Simple, „thing“, which is depend on us, adults. And they change in accordance to us. Their direction is directed by us. By our acts. No matter, what kind of act it is.

It is valid for every child. Health, not health, or child, which has some special Gift from God. Gift which can complicate a life of parents, a little bit, or more, but at the same time it can enrich their life. Like another one , extra chromosome, or some special way of realizing the love for parents. I refer to two types of children. Those with Down's syndrome and those with Autism.

Both of these types of children are special. It can be hard to create some relationship with them, it can be more complicated, but it is not beyond possibility. It is sad, that if children are in one of these „groups“, they are automatic labeled. Yet they are personalities.

It is said , that children with Down's syndrome are full of love, which they share with everyone around them. That is true. Their creation and expression of emotions is boundless and positive in the most of cases, what is amazing. I understand it can be harder to communicate with them, live with them. Because we need a lot of patience and boundless love within us.

Few years ago, I had a chance to meet boy with this syndrome in the church. When we all began to shake our hands (offering the sign of peace), he did not shake hand of girl next to him, he embraced her. This girl was amazed, but after first moment she put big smile on her face and I smiled too. It was breathtaking how someone can express simple love so intensive. But not everyone was so understanding. Some people just stared, some people had denouncing look at their faces...He just did not deserve it.

On the other side, children with autism are absolutely contrary. They can hardly create some emotions and their parents suffers because of it. They love their children as much as every other parent but these children don't sense it. Or more precisely, they don't know how to receive these emotions, these feeling, they are not able to feel something like that. But if parents remain in their effort, there is possibility to create permanent feelings and this is big success and this love is the most powerful!

I am sorry, that these children are labeled by society and they are not always granted to be accepted. We are all different. Even when they are a little bit different, I think they should not be considered as outsiders. We have no right to decide, if they have right to be born because of their diagnose. They are not submen.

Every child needs protection, love and patience. They needs to feel they are loved and accepted. No matter, if these children are able to create feelings simple, or not. Maybe just this one difference is something, what makes them special. It can be always something, what we can not see in ourselves. What about start to discover this „something“ in us with them and instead of refusing them, let's help them to integrate and show them, they are useful for us all, for our society? 

Their love is in the end one of the strongest love ever. 

Do not forget, at the end of the day, they can teach you more than you can teach them, after all.